I was talking with my housemate about how to be more physically active if you’re not used to it at all because everywhere you’re told to start a training routine where you push yourself a little every day, and while that may seem easy for some people it can be really fucking daunting if you start from zero.
As someone who comes from a very physically active family that doesn’t exercise just for the sake of exercising but do things like walk to the grocery store and bike to work, here’s my advice that has always worked for me:
Go super duper easy on yourself.
If you want to walk more start by walking for 3 or 5 minutes. The shortest possible walk you feel you’re capable of. A trip around the block or across the yard. You don’t need to sweat or get your blood pumping. Just a short stroll. The hardest part is to convince yourself to set aside 5 minutes every day to go on this short walk but nothing else about it should be hard. Do it every day and one day you’ll realize that you don’t want to go home just yet. It’s very important that you don’t think “I want to pressure myself to walk further” but rather “I haven’t spent all my walking energy yet. I have more walk in me” and only then do you lengthen the walk. I repeat, at no point should it be exhausting or difficult because even when it feels easy your body will be building muscle and stamina and it will eventually feel too easy and you’ll naturally want to crank it back up to easy again.
If you’re not used to being physically active it might not make a ton of sense when I say that you’ll have more walking energy left but trust me, you’ll get it when you get there.
I grew up with going on evening walks with my parents and passed that on to other housemates who didn’t get it at first but are now going on walks long after they moved somewhere else. Because once you get the hang of it you’ll realize how calming it is on the brain to move the body even if the body isn’t exhausted afterwards.
And it of course helps to entertain yourself especially in the beginning. My housemate started out listening to audiobooks and podcasts but eventually realized Pokémon Go was the best motivator. Whatever you feel like you want to do on your 5 minute easy stroll.
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anyone else know in their heart that they would absolutely adore smoking cigarettes so they have to avoid them like the plague or just me
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Blue Bells in the meadow - Hilding Linnqvist , 1930.
Swedish, 1891-1984
Oil on panel , 35 x 26,5 cm.
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• goodnight/ goodmorning texts
• I miss you’s
• I hope you’re okay’s
• thinking about you
• when someone goes out of their way to show you they care
• when someone shows a real interest in you
• feeling wanted
• feeling like what you feel is validated
•feeling important
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one day, someone will consistently show up for you and you’ll realise what safety feels like.
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I cannot stress this enough:
Kink is meant to be fun. It is meant to be enjoyed by all parties involved. There’s a lot of romantic symbolism in suffering for your D/s but in reality, if the s-type isn’t finding joy in the scenes you do, you need to make changes to it.
Having limits or complicated feelings about certain (even common) kinks does not make you a less worthy submissive. The power exchange is granted by the sub, not taken by the Dom.
Please honor yourself and make sure your terms are being met before giving someone a right to your body that they have not earned.
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